#$%@ People Say to Transracial Families

So, I think I've watched this video 10 times at least & shared it with so many friends.

friends that have transracial families + friends that don't.

I sorta wish me & my crew had thought of this.

I think it's so truthful and funny.

I know that it can be awkward knowing what to say/not to say to transracial families.

It used to be awkward for me when I saw people that I so desperately wanted to know their story.

and it's ok to ask - just in a non offensive way.  

most things in this video to me are totally ok: where are they from?  I love their hair!  They are so beautiful.  

and some just are awkward to hear: they are so lucky, you are so amazing.  

why you ask?

because they are the kids god picked for our family.  we aren't amazing, we were just being obedient.  and although the process was hard, it was worth every second.  I don't think I"m any more amazing than my friends who birthed their babies (gees, I'm terrified of that!)  they do have a better life here, but all their past hurt and pain doesn't automatically go away because they are in America now. 

and then some are just not ok.  

are those your real kids?

as you all know, we chose adoption.  god intervened in our story before we went down the infertility treatment path with adoption.  so, these are our real kids.  no, they didn't come from my body but they are just as much my "real kids" as any kids we would be blessed to have biologically.

are they real siblings?

I think this is the hardest.  

my babies were 9 months & 10 months when we brought them home.

( I just realized I need to write out ashers story still for you all!)

so obviously they are not biologically related.

but they ARE real siblings. 

{you might have noticed that I have used the word "biological" a lot.  I do it in conversation too.  It's because I"m trying to get people talking my language.}

but I am not super sensitive to the questions and remarks I get when we are out in public.  

we knew it wasn't going to be all butterflies & roses raising two brown kids 

but we truly believe that their adoption is a beautiful picture of the gospel and if they spark conversations that bring other orphans to their forever families, or point people to Christ - then bring it on!!

so next time you see a transracial family, especially ones that have adopted kids, tell them how beautiful their children are and if you are interested in their story, tell em so!  Most of us really do love the opportunity to talk about it.